Why Do High-Achieving Women Love Toxic Men?

Dating coach Cherlyn Chong sat down with me to talk about dating and how to get over an ex.

More specifically, how can we treat a breakup as we do a project at work, with a strategy and a goal? After telling me how she got over her own ex in 32 days (!), she outlined a step-by-step process for you to do the same.

Because of my in-depth research during Sex and the City marathons, I believed it should take people about half the time they dated to move past a relationship. “Hogwash,” Chong says. Crying it out is not a strategy.

My new favorite dating coach also talked about what drives high-achieving women to gravitate toward toxic men—and no, we’re not masochists. Chong ends with talking about common dating mistakes women make. If you want to understand how to date and move on with more intention, this talk is for you.